Today at work I was reminded that I may have began my journey on this Christian walk, but have a long way to go. Have you ever felt hurt by others, sincerely believing they didn’t intend to do so, but still felt the sting? Surely, at one time or another, you too have felt offended.
I work in a part of a building where all the other women work for a particular program at our agency, while I am the receptionist. They had decided to all bring food they would share, but I was not included. Now I realize I had three possible reactions: (1) Not react and shrug it off. (2) Become offended which can quickly lead to (3) Feel sorry for myself.
Though my day was going well, once I found this out, I struggled, feeling hurt, left out, and isolated. I tried to encourage myself and focus on the Lord, but it was a battle. I was struggling with being offended. Which, as a Christian, I know I should not do. The bible tells us:
Proverbs 19:11 (KJV) -The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.
James 1:19 (KJV) -Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
When I allow myself to become offended, these three things tend to happen in quick succession:
(1) I find myself having taken my focus completely off God and going inward. (2) I allow my imagination to play out an entire scene 10 seconds of what would happen if I expressed my hurt. (3) I become withdrawn and eventually (4) I repent.
I am not proud of admitting this, but the Lord has told me my purpose in this blog is to be transparent. I had to go to a fellow Christian and ask her to pray with me, that I would not be offended and explained what had happened. I am so thankful for God’s mercy and grace that are new every day. My friend prayed that I would not be offended and prayed for God’s peace to come upon me. And I thank God, that His peace that passes all understanding, did come upon me.
I wish I could tell you that the rest of the day went without a struggle. But I had to renew my thoughts a number of times after that. But I’m so grateful God has instructed us with His Word how to overcome the flesh by renewing our thoughts.
Romans 12:2 (KJV) – And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
It’s important to know that offense and pride go hand in hand. I’m asking my Father to help me seek the root of that pride issue because I know in this walk of faith, with the help of the Holy Spirit I am victorious through Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior.