The Bridegroom

The public declaration of engagement has been made, but then he leaves with a promise to come back for his bride.  Would you wait for the bridegroom when a definite date hasn’t been told of his return?

Today we see more failed relationships and marriages ending in divorce.  So much so that some will scoff and make wages about how long a couple or marriage will last.    My brother asked me if I believe that everyone has a soul mate.  I told him I could only answer that I wasn’t aware of that being mentioned in the bible.  I wonder how often the reason for a marriage breakup is because someone has found their “soul mate” after they have made a solemn oath in their marriage to their spouse?  It saddens me because this has hit too close to home.

I found myself crying out loud because the physical distance is too great and I can’t hold my sister-in-law’s hand as she is trying to understand why my brother has left her. I must admit, my reaction is gut-wrenching anger.  I’ve had a failed marriage.  I know all too well the death that she must mourn.  I know the helplessness of not being able to keep a marriage together that has already been left by a spouse.  My heart breaks for her. Though I can’t console her, I know the One who can.

I  Psalm 77:1 (KJV) I cried unto God with my voice, even unto God with my voice; and he gave ear unto me.

I pray for His peace that passes all understanding to come upon her. (Philippians 4:7)  And I pray that He be with, strengthen her and uphold her (Isaiah 41:10) And though her thoughts are filled with sorrow, I know that there will come a day when sorrow shall come to an end.

Revelation 21:4-5 (KJV) And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I make all things new. And he said unto me, Write: for these words are true and faithful.

I found myself writing this to comfort my sister-in-law and give her hope:  There is a bridegroom who is worthy of your tears.  There is a bridegroom who will never leave you nor forsake you.  There is a bridegroom who has already thought you were worth dying for.

I have heard that in ancient Jewish customs, a couple would be “engaged” after a public ceremony.   Though considered now to be married, the bridegroom would return to his home to prepare a place for his bride.  It could be a full year before his return, which gave each of them the time to prepare for their wedding.  The bride didn’t know for certain the length of time before he came back for her, but she had to be ready.

Why am I sharing this with you, sister?  Because the bridegroom is Jesus!  He is the bridegroom, and the church (us who believe and profess Jesus is our Lord and Savior) are the bride!

Like the bridegroom who leaves to prepare a place for his bride, Jesus says in John 14:1-3Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many mansions: if {it were} not {so}, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. (3) And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, {there} ye may be also. 


1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 KJV But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him. For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive {and} remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.  For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:  Then we which are alive {and} remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.  Wherefore comfort one another with these words.

You are not alone dear sister.  As the bridegroom did in ancient days, Jesus left you with a gift:

John 14:15-19 (KJV)If ye love me, keep my commandments.  And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you. Yet a little while, and the world seeth me no more;

Allow the Holy Spirit to minister to you, to comfort you, and to teach  you until the bridegroom returns.

John 14:26-31(KJV)But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. Ye have heard how I said unto you, I go away, and come again unto you. If ye loved me, ye would rejoice, because I said, I go unto the Father: for my Father is greater than I.

Hold fast, my dear sister, to the promise of Jesus to return and collect His bride.  He is faithful and mighty to save.

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